Theo. – Today, I’d like to submit a specific example: I really wish to help a friend who is experiencing difficulties within her own family, where injustices are being committed. It could entail serious internal divisions among the parents, the children and even the grandchildren. They all believe they are doing what is right but they don’t see the adverse consequences it will probably have. Most of the time, my friend tries to ignore it and to consider that injustice, which is not of her making, as an unwanted thought. It helps not to fuel the conflict within her, as well as within the family. She avoids talking about it, particularly with the ones who started it all but who are still very dear to her. Yet, there are moments when she just cannot remain neutral and feels very angry, irritated, sad and miserable. What do you think? Is there anything I could do to help her?
The Elder – He who feels he is unfairly treated is like a young child who has a feeling that his parents reject him. It is a mere illusion of the ego.
Theo. – An illusion, maybe, but one that hurts and upsets you. Is not that reality?
The Elder – Facts may be true, but the suffering they cause is not real. Here is where illusion stands (point 5): it concerns desires (point 1), generates distress (point 2), anger (point 3) and the fear that your parents do not love you properly (point 4). All this creates within us a separation movement that makes us that feel we are cut off from Love. Now, we both know that it is impossible. It is only an illusion created by the ego and the one who is affected is only the young child within us.
Theo. – It reminds me of Ho’oponopono. But what should we do?
The Elder – At first, you will clean the general impressions and complexities of a situation lived as an irritating injustice. But since it all reveals a person’s tendency, it also gives the person an opportunity to get rid of that illusion and thus get nearer to God. The remoteness we feel comes from ourselves and from nobody else.
Theo. – Does it means that our miseries and sufferings are there to reveal what is already within us? Is it the reason why you thank them for pinpointing a request or a false memory? As far as I can remember, you say:
“I’m sorry for the young child”,
“Pardon me for what is happening to him/her”,
“Thank you for that opportunity to remove and get free from that false memory”,
and “I love you”, because Love will solve everything.
The Elder – That is where consciousness will play its part. Once the heart and its five points have been cleaned, they give access to clear awareness: you see, hence you know.
Theo. – So, besides samskaras, memories are also active within us, aren’t they?
The Elder – Hence the double action: cleaning, aiming at the purification and the illumination of the heart, and constant remembrance to help us ignore and be cured of all memories from the past and from olden times (previous lives and karma).
Theo. – So, you would add such an active work on the erasure of false memories.
– Practice shows that when they disappear, these tendencies are no longer being fuelled, and above all that it creates an inner vacuum, a state of infinite zero, which will liberate Supreme Love. And Love solves everything indeed, the old man says, smiling.
Theo. – Our egotistic responses therefore show nothing but a lack of love.
The Elder – Or they are the manifestation of a call to release God’s Love, the Lord’s Love within us. They are therefore a blessing, an uncomfortable one of course, but a salutary blessing.
Theo. – Whom should I thank for that? Those who are hurting us or God?
– Both of them, the wise man concluded, leaving Theo pensive.
Theophile the Elder
An excerpt from Dialogues with Theophile the Elder
Theophile the Younger’s initiation